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A Winter Grief

12/30/2017

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Last night I attended a wake for the son of a poet friend.  She now has two sons who have preceded her in death, both sons dying unexpectedly.  It's hard to imagine that kind of grief.  And still I grieve for her, her husband, the daughter that lives on in the midst of the loss.  I sat, studying the faces of those there, wondering how they came to know this young man gone.  From life to loss.

​Emily Dickinson's poem speaks.  The lines in that last stanza.  The great hope, I guess.  That letting go.

"As freezing persons recollect the snow--
First chill, then stupor, then the letting go".

After Great Pain, A Formal Feeling Comes

By Emily Dickinson
​

After great pain a formal feeling comes--
The nerves sit ceremonious like tombs;
The stiff Heart questions--was it He that bore?
And yesterday--or centuries before?

The feet, mechanical, go round
A wooden way
Of ground, or air, or ought,
Regardless grown,
A quartz contentment, like a stone.

This is the hour of lead
Remembered if outlived,
As freezing persons recollect the snow--
First chill, then stupor, then the letting go.

Source:  https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/47651/after-great-pain-a-formal-feeling-comes-372​

I have another friend, Marcia Pradzinski, who lost a son quite a few years ago.  She's written a book, keenly titled, Left Behind, that speaks to her grief, of her loss. 

​Solace

Marcia J. Pradzinski

I look for it in the honeyed plumpness
of the golden comforter,
the cold morning bathroom tiles,
the rain of water warm then cool
      that bathes my senses awake.

I look for it
in the fire and fragrance
of my son’s hair
as we begin our morning struggle,
in the earthy tang of coffee
and the soft cork of the bulletin board
      littered with reminders.

I look for it
in the burgundy sofa
that sighs with my weight as I listen
for the rumble of the yellow school bus,
and later
in the newspaper-reading faces on the train,
the conductor’s song of stops,
the garlic-scented accents of students
their struggle twisting their way into English
      as I twist my way in and out of the day.

And when it comes, it comes
not in days away, not in evenings out.
But as the day ebbs
with dishes stacked in the sink,
clothes to be washed, lists to be made
it calls me softly into my son’s room
invites me to sit at the edge of his bed
and stroke his soft curls.
The rhythms
of his breath the ticking clock
my breath weld the scene
and hold us
    in an eggshell of space.
​

www.yourdailypoem.com/listpoem.jsp?poem_id=918

May we all be held in that eggshell of space when grief muscles in.
 

​




2 Comments
Catharine Jones
12/31/2017 07:58:00 am

Thank you both for the tender sensitive and opening of experience you share in these live experiences.

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Kevin link
8/24/2021 10:47:05 am

Thiss was great to read

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